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How old were you when u had babies

Postby bea » Wed Jun 20, 2007 1:23 pm

How old were u when u had kids? Looking back now, do you think you were too young/old/not ready etc
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Postby mdkilmer » Wed Jun 20, 2007 2:02 pm

For my boys I was 28 and 32. I think that the timing was just about perfect for both.
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Postby solana » Wed Jun 20, 2007 5:10 pm

between the ages of 19-24 I had 4 kids..........

I loved every minute of raising them... ( well mostly )
and it was good timing for me....

I don't regret it...
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Postby Rusty » Wed Jun 20, 2007 5:26 pm

I was 21,28 and 31 when I had my three.
There was no reason for that gap between my daughter being born when I was 21 and my first son when I was 28 other than the fact that I just didn`t fall pregnant.

I was fine with having children at all three of those ages although I had only been married four months when I fell pregnant with my daughter so we didn`t have much time on our own.
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Postby Sarah » Tue Jun 26, 2007 5:51 am

Whenever I hear about people having children before the age of 23 I get a little depressed... it makes me feel so stunted.
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Postby bermbits » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:55 am

I was in my upper 40s when we had our daughter. For so many years, I didn't want or feel competent to have and raise kids. When I met my future wife, I knew I was as ready as one can be.
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Postby Valleysailor » Tue Jun 26, 2007 11:27 am

I was 25 when my only son was born. I think I was as ready as I was likely to be. I'm glad I didn't start earlier though.
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Postby solana » Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:08 pm

Whenever I hear about people having children before the age of 23 I get a little depressed... it makes me feel so stunted.


23 is still quite young...you have plenty of time..

just think how much freedom you have right now.. that changes when you have kids... big time!

Fortunately I have always been a homebody... lol

no worries.. your babies will come when it is right...
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Postby pilvikki » Tue Jun 26, 2007 7:34 pm

19-22-24

i should have waited -- for a long time, but i didn't know it at the time.
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Postby Sandra » Wed Jun 27, 2007 1:08 am

Sarah wrote:Whenever I hear about people having children before the age of 23 I get a little depressed... it makes me feel so stunted.


Don't be depressed Sarah, I had my daughter at 23 and it turned out to be a great age as I'd partied since I was 18 and it was time to slow down :lol:

I was more mature to deal with a baby at 23 and now she is 17 we have loads in common and do lots of things together :D
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Postby sassie » Wed Jun 27, 2007 7:35 am

I was 21 when I had my daughter 24 when I had my son .. To me it was a perfect age.. I would not change a thing... :D
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Postby meadow » Wed Jun 27, 2007 7:37 am

stunted? wtf for?

follow your own path, not what you think you should be doing. you aren't automatically a better person for having kids. i think if more people waited a few more years then the world would be in a much better state.

are you really ready for the constant need of a baby? you certainly would never be in Spain if you had a child already. and how much life experience would you be losing out on because of that?

it's not stunted. it's smart.
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Postby brandtrn » Wed Jun 27, 2007 9:59 am

I was 24 when my oldest daughter was born, and 27 when I had my youngest.
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Postby Sarah » Wed Jun 27, 2007 3:14 pm

stunted? wtf for?


Oh, I am by no means saying I wish I had a child right now! It's simply occurring to me that a lot of people I know already had children by the time they were my age, and a lot of my friends are now getting engaged and yadda, yadda, yadda. I just don't foresee any of that in my near future. Not even close.
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Postby mdkilmer » Wed Jun 27, 2007 4:04 pm

No little Oysterettes running around? What a shame.
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Postby AJRC_CS » Sat Jun 30, 2007 6:37 am

I was 22 when my son was born. Yes, at the time i thought i was too young, but now i'm glad we had him at a young age. I'm not so far out of touch that i can't relate to what he's going through being 15.
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Postby threenorns » Mon Jul 16, 2007 10:22 pm

19, 22, and 40... Saari's my little "oops!" baby.

nik (1986):

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cait (1989):

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saari (2007):

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you know what? having them young is WAY better from a physical point of view (you're young and things bounce back better) and from a mental point of view (of course your baby is impervious and invulnerable) but not from a parenting point of view (TOTALLY way more patience, tolerance, compassion, and understanding).
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